Once I recognize that I’m in conflict – that there’s something happening, that there’s a charge – I want to set the intention that I’m going to react consciously rather than being reactive and out of control.

If I’m someone who wants to live in peace – wants to create peace – wants to be connected to people that I care about, then it’s an opportunity for me to use my values – to live how I want to live.

What I think can happen, when there is a charge when we’re in conflict or we’re angry – that charge has energy to it. So, it can be exciting to say, “I’m going to use this energy to carry something forward – to be who and what I want to be.” Rather than just following that energy wherever it might lead.

There’s so much aliveness when your angry or when your upset. It’s a pretty cool thing to channel that energy into connection. I can be alive and open to you. I think that’s a reason why we sometimes feel more connected to people once we’ve had a successful conflict – because we’re wide open when we’re that alive.

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